Most of my clients come to me because his or her life resembles a merry-go-round… the same scene passes by over and over; been there, done that. Many respond to this repetition with either anxiety, depression or both. Probably these occur in order: first anxiety and then depression. Anxiety occurs when we first realize that we’re caught in a loop, like a leaf that can’t flow downstream because it can't escape the backwater or eddy. Some sort of desperate feeling takes over as we realize that we’re no longer steering our lives but rather, something is steering us. When we are unwilling to endure the intense reaction that our predicament stirs up, we find ways of suppressing our distress. This suppression, originally a freely chosen option, now becomes the default state and we are diagnosed as suffering from depression.
Therapy, on the other hand, involves re-engaging the soul or psyche in an alliance with the therapist. Now the goal is not suppression but rather the arousal necessary for empowerment. Together, the client and therapist begin to disentangle the person from their habits and reactive patterns. Then the work of genuine reconstruction can begin.